Having a second baby in today’s day and age is like really climbing Mount Everest all over again. You have to be prepared to go through the sleepless nights, changing diapers, breastfeeding the baby and being an alert zombie cum robot who is nothing less than perfect but wait…this time you will have the first one around as well and making the first baby prepared that a new little munchkin is about to enter your lives is a step by step process and should be handled with a lot of care.
When to break the news to the first child?
If you and your husband are all ready to plan the baby and if everything seems positive and you both have been healthy, It can be a good time to gently nudge your first baby into suggesting that he/she may get a new and permanent partner to play with. This process can be very slow and can begin where you just begin showing the kid positive photos of you and your sibling or general pictures in stories of a positive kind. You can also show them positive movies where sibling love formed an integral part. This will help the child form positive association
How to break the news to your first child?
If your pregnancy test comes positive it may be a good idea to hold on till you get your first ultrasound post which you can definitely break the news to your first kid. Here you can use positive sentences like “Your wish has been granted.” or “A new family member is going to be added to our family.” and always make sure that you use an excited tone and are in a positive mood while you break the news to your kid. If morning sickness or any other situation is wearing you down make sure you wait for the perfect day, recording this moment when you break the news can also be a great memory. If your kid is older than 3 showing him/her the ultrasound can be a great idea. To break the news on social media, many couples are opting the photoshoot option where the older kid sort of breaks the news. This is a really creative option if you wanna be one of those cool parents.
How to involve your first kid in the preparations?
Now that you have broken the news to the baby and he/she is really excited, involving the kid in the process and preparations is a really great way to form a strong sibling bond. If you are making a new room for the kid, then involving the first baby in deciding the color of the baby’s wall or making him/her in charge of the decorations is a really great way to ensure that the first kid remains excited. If you have a kid who is old enough to understand, then taking him/her along to your gynecologist visits can be a step which is not only informative but also inclusive. As the birth of the second kid approaches, make sure you empower the first kid with statements like “You have been a great help.” and “Mommy is so proud of you’ “You will be a great elder brother/sister.”
How to make the first one understand what it will be like to have a new baby around?
It will be a great idea to talk your kid and explain that a new baby will be a new person with their own personality. You’ll also want to give the elder one the scoop on what newborn babies are really like. You can explain the first one that the baby won’t be able to play with him/her at first but will be able to kiss the baby, hold the baby or hold the hand. Also, it will be a really great idea to inform an especially young toddler (2-4 years old) that the baby will spend most of his/her time sleeping, crying, and feed. This will not only prepare the kid about the arrival of the baby but also make him/her understand what a new baby is like. To make the first one understand, you can also show them baby videos or their own photos when he/she was an infant/toddler.
Will things change as the birth approaches?
Well, this depends on your attitude and approach and also your general health before the delivery. Try to avoid any major changes during this time, such as moving or starting a new school. Don’t pressure your child to complete toilet training or give up security items like pacifiers. Keep to the regular routine as much as possible. Spend as much time as you can with your child in these last weeks and try to stay present with him when you’re together. This can be a time to savor the special relationship that you’ve shared before things change.
I hope these tips have helped you in easing out the process of making you and your spouse ready for the arrival of the second kid.
Keep on Popping,