Things To Work On For Your Child’s Development

“I understand that you love me more than anything. But this love should have been my support to explore the world and grow stronger, not to stay at home safely and grow weak. You should have let me and achieve what I’ve dreamt. You should have been there to support me even if I failed. I would never have had the fear of failure. You should have allowed me to do my work on my own so that I wouldn’t have been scared to go out alone. You should have given me the freedom to take responsibilities of my own life, I’d have been a better decision maker and I’d have been a bold girl. I focused on my academics and scored marks but failed to create beautiful memories with friends and childhood. You let me out to be myself only after I took up a job. Do you know, I was like lost in the woods. You showered me with love, but the world out there is cruel. Only I know how did I struggle out there to face the real world. Being myself was my strength because everyone is unique. I understood that late in my life. Not only academic score will make our lives full. Continue to be my support, trust me with my decisions and let me be free! I’ll achieve more than you can ever imagine.”
Your loving daughter.

Every child grows and develops differently, learning and doing things at their own pace. When we talk about raising a child, every parent expects their child’s growth and development to happen the way they want it to be. In fact, there are various concerns: physical and mental wellness, safety issues, education, socialization and etc.

A child’s mental wellness must come before anything else but there seems to be an imbalance between academic achievement and physical and mental well-being. Most children are taught about the importance of things like exercise, a healthy diet and the risks of smoking/drinking in school. But they rarely learn about the impact of stress on their body and the ability to survive in the modern world. In this article let’s talk about the importance Of Child Development

So, Let Us See What We Can Do As Parents To Ensure Holistic Development-

1. Give Them Cultural Exposure (Books, Film, Pop Art, Drama, Dance And Etc 

Language is one of the effective ways through which culture affects the development of a child. Also teaching your children words in the native language(s) of your family is a personal way to introduce them to different cultures, as well as family history. In fact, it helps the child to identify own self and gradually starts respecting himself. Eventually, the child gets encouraged to develop cross-racial, ethnic and religious friendships.

Of course, exposing your children to foods from different cultures and letting them watch movies/ dramas/ dance/ pop artist in other cultures reveal the sensitive part of human nature. Those claiming to be the best sources to understand and collaborate with every type of person and aid in thinking out of the box.

Children’s books and expressing themselves through art is a wonderful way to improve the sense of his or her own identity, as well as the understanding of those who are different in terms of race, family composition, religious beliefs, and ability.

2. Make Them A Part Of Decision Making By Inviting Their Ideas

Decision making should be encouraged from an early age as it helps the child in numerous ways by improving their ability to think, act, pursue their own studies and keep themselves motivated. Listening to their opinion, taking their words, interpreting and analyzing their responses, understanding their concerns, wants and desires create a sense of accomplishment and make them self-assured and liberal. It will have a significant impact if the way parents/teachers think about children and provide services and education considering their perspective.

3. Have Expectations According To Your Child’s Milestone

People boast about things which should not be mentioned, Seriously! One aunt of mine said to the other ladies in a function – “My daughter, just 15 years old, knows all the prayers by heart. She can recite them without a pause. Other ladies admired this piece of information and praised the girl. Some even told their daughters – “Look at her and take shame. She is just 15, a lot younger than you. Learn from her! She knows ALL the prayers by heart!” I am reminded about a saying comes from generations, “Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.


Parents who are aware of developmental milestones of their children are more likely to have realistic expectations about what their children can do and learn at different stages of their lives. This creates the path to provide a stimulating home environment, but bragging about them does not help them to grow in reality.

When parents expect beyond a child’s capability, it can lead the child to be impatient, aggressive and most importantly it promotes the child’s indiscipline.

“While reprimanding them, make sure to make a clear distinction between who they are amp; the behaviour being called out. 

Higher expectations make child’s development complex and vice versa; expecting too little can also decrease the potential to learn. Challenges are an essential part of the child’s development, that when used according to the child’s milestone, can make them confident and encourage them to do better.

4. Freedom To Learn, Explore And Experience

Independent learning is one of the best ways for a child to develop their ability to respond to change, learn transferrable skills and moreover, it mirrors ‘natural’ learning in the rest of their lives. By taking ownership of the learning experiences and learning to practice these skills direct them to succeed during their years of formal education and their personal and professional achievements.

Always allowing children to imagine how they will feel when they learn something new and volunteer to describe their feelings after they have learned something, encourage children to develop their own learning goals that are realistic yet challenging.


In conclusion, “Let them win, let them fail; at the end let them be confident enough to grow through what they go through.”. By exposing them to culture, encouraging decision making, understanding their milestone and allowing freedom in learning while experiencing success and failure will bring the best out of children one day.”

Written by

Ransi Samarasinghe, ESL Teacher